tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post2396335845920237355..comments2023-10-22T05:08:51.281-06:00Comments on Confessions of a Rotten Correspondent: code pink reduxthe rotten correspondenthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02704525054720181936noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-85585013396139386962008-03-19T18:03:00.000-06:002008-03-19T18:03:00.000-06:00oh wow. i can NOT believe the girl drama. i have a...oh wow. i can NOT believe the girl drama. i have an eight year old, who i'm constantly reminding is 8, not 18. who likes who today and who has been staring at whom and who is my best friend forever but yesterday she was mean. oh my good lord i'm glad number two is a boy. a cuddly, simple boy.hollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14839794772310980473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-7477814331610707022008-03-18T22:50:00.000-06:002008-03-18T22:50:00.000-06:00I have three boys, too! But I finally got a grand...I have three boys, too! But I finally got a grand daughter, whoo hooo!<BR/><BR/>We had a run of OD'ers in the ICU last month....one of them had a "mother" who wouldn't even come to see her daughter....grrr.PinkAcornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08890046314872288607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-77600568021818552042008-03-18T12:20:00.000-06:002008-03-18T12:20:00.000-06:00i can so relate to this post. i had three boys bef...i can so relate to this post. i had three boys before the little pink princess arrived, and oh the differences!<BR/><BR/>middle-school girl wars are some of the nastiest, dirty, evil battles known to (wo)man. i cannot believe what girls will do to each other, never mind what they will do when boys are involved.<BR/><BR/>my "little" girl is 13 now ... and her cold cruel world scares the holy crap out of me.the planet of janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11444337511603560544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-70318922660008089042008-03-18T10:23:00.000-06:002008-03-18T10:23:00.000-06:00i was a third child, not quite planned, and the on...i was a third child, not quite planned, and the only girl. needless to say no one wanted to play barbies unless they wanted to hurt them or me, and i was never very girly anyway. anything girly i did was hushed and shushed and called inappropriate. you shouldnt scream when someone hits you in the face - then you get spanked and nothing happens to them. what? yeah, life in my house was truly unfair. and only one time did I carry on crying for over an hour when I'd been hit, so that for once, justice would be served. being a girl in an all boy family is not the greatest. I was stuck between trying to be a girl and not knowing how, and trying NOT to be like my brothers. anything they liked, i didnt want anything to do with (smokes, alcohol, riding a bike, driving, etc) -- my development was shattered and splintered into pieces. I still dont feel right. I'm treated as if - I dont know, as if I never grew up, but I was the most mature, I took care of things, I didnt waste money or have sex as a pre-teen or ride around drunk. and yet somehow? I'm still treated the worst. When I went to college, graduated with over a 3.9, the comment was 'oh i thought you went to college to get married' -- shattered. nothing i did was ever good enough. its hard to be motivated when you do everything exactly right and you're still just 'nothing' -- kind of kills your motivation to do anything. maybe you'll be lucky with your boys and they'll all come out of this in their own unique ways, as stronger, more capable men, that DONT treat women like they are nothing.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04474928571871603804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-30666178751260622912008-03-18T00:04:00.000-06:002008-03-18T00:04:00.000-06:00I think i will have my daughter read thid post. We...I think i will have my daughter read thid post. Well said!!Attiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07257174898973960652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-60713451852208358282008-03-17T18:32:00.000-06:002008-03-17T18:32:00.000-06:00That wa briliant and very timely, too! Glad that ...That wa briliant and very timely, too! Glad that you're resurfacing...Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01727506305170439878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-60622631242124143632008-03-17T17:23:00.000-06:002008-03-17T17:23:00.000-06:00That was a BRILLIANT post. I really enjoyed readin...That was a BRILLIANT post. I really enjoyed reading it.<BR/>I had a boy & a girl, so the best of both worlds.<BR/>I agree that no man is worth dying for (after a break up!)<BR/>Show them you can manage probably hurts more!Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-80580158396766223282008-03-17T15:56:00.000-06:002008-03-17T15:56:00.000-06:00Thanks for reminding me why I'm happy to stick wit...Thanks for reminding me why I'm happy to stick with what we have, RC.Potty Mummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04751869800592294891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-521797368462425712008-03-17T15:30:00.000-06:002008-03-17T15:30:00.000-06:00Here's my dirty little secret: When I was expectin...Here's my dirty little secret: When I was expecting my first child, I really, really wanted a boy. When I popped out a girl, well, of course, I was happy. But I was also just a wee bit disappointed. When I found out I was having a boy the second time, I was ecstatic. One girl I can handle. Any more than that and I think our house would go into hormone overdrive, what with my menopause and my daughter's periods. Boys are so easy emotionally. What you see is what you get. That doesn't mean they don't feel emotions or aren't sensitive. But it's all there.wakeupandsmellthecoffeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04602735058278146250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-3146196302581311532008-03-17T13:11:00.000-06:002008-03-17T13:11:00.000-06:00Fabulous post RC, I've got a boy and a girl so I k...Fabulous post RC, I've got a boy and a girl so I kinda get both points of view.<BR/><BR/>Boys, oh yes you are so right. Especially about the dumb injuries they tend to inflict on themselves or each other. I got so used to it that when my 14 year old son lept off the top of a flight of concrete steps and head-butted a steel lintel (he was very tall even then), I was so sick of going to the doctor's with him I just stuck his scalp together with Steri-strip and kept an eye on him for concussion. He now blames me for a lumpy hairline, and I guess he's right. Bad mother.<BR/><BR/>Whereas my daughter, although we wage psychological warfare on each other from time to time, has never really blamed me for anything as far as I know. Guess if she'd split her head open I might have taken her to A and E. <BR/><BR/>Frankly I also understand what you mean when you say "there is no man on earth worth dying for unless you gave birth to him." I'd like to add that if everything is alright with you and those you gave birth to, the rest will all be OK, eventually.Swearing Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07277450057243928790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-23685649081664223552008-03-17T12:07:00.000-06:002008-03-17T12:07:00.000-06:00I think mine are more the hitting with a baseball ...I think mine are more the hitting with a baseball bat type of girl...'the mother of this lothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04173598381711792094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-89124864332629896172008-03-17T12:00:00.000-06:002008-03-17T12:00:00.000-06:00I was happy having two boys and MWM decided that w...I was happy having two boys and MWM decided that was enough for him too. He always said if we'd had a daughter she'd be locked in the attic like Rapunzel so no-one could hurt her. However, since our grandaughter Gracie came on the scene he recently announced he wished we'd tried again for a girl! What the f...d is that all about??? :(Akelamaluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234268568845148285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-43376933874909975642008-03-17T11:43:00.000-06:002008-03-17T11:43:00.000-06:00I don't get girl drama, either. Mine is 5 and alre...I don't get girl drama, either. Mine is 5 and already the drama queen. I shudder. The hormone swings. The pregnancies. The STDs. (Yes, boys can get them, too, but the girls tend to carry them without the symptoms). The eating disorders. The pressures to be Barbie-bodied.<BR/><BR/>God help us.Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08273493776473085128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-89336474857294754862008-03-17T10:56:00.000-06:002008-03-17T10:56:00.000-06:00Having now children of my own - I can't comment on...Having now children of my own - I can't comment on the boy or girl thing...<BR/><BR/>But as for the No Man is Worth Killing Yourself Over - How absolutely true! <BR/><BR/>That being said - if The Man was to be yanked away in the next split second - I hope I get yanked at the same time...<BR/><BR/>But for the men that shit on you? Pffft - it's better to shit on them and then use them to wipe up....aimshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12685252628734838159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-13220670431437254182008-03-17T10:26:00.000-06:002008-03-17T10:26:00.000-06:00High 5! What an awesome post! Having 3 boys, and w...High 5! What an awesome post! Having 3 boys, and wishing DEEPLY each time I pushed them out that I would have a girl. It still bothers me that I do not get to have a mother daughter relationship but as each year goes by I become more okay with my fate. Like you I don't get it and I think boys just might be easier to raise than girls. <BR/><BR/>Amazing post!!Kaytabughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11823989062127968170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-51229037091544228902008-03-17T09:57:00.000-06:002008-03-17T09:57:00.000-06:00my son is my oldest, but i never had all the stuff...my son is my oldest, but i never had all the stuff that comes along w boys w him...you know, broken bones, doing stupid crap just to see who can do it better, etc.<BR/><BR/>the girls are 11 and 9...i try everyday to let them know that no man is ever worth being put down for, treated bad, abused, etc. maybe you're just seeing more girls, but suicide is prevalent w teens in general...and boys have done the same over a girl or bullying..many other reasons.<BR/><BR/>there are parents who do the best that they can and still these kids do it. there is so much more going on inside them that we just don't know about. <BR/><BR/>my son was easier, but i love having girls around. there's going to be so much more drama i'm sure (women tend to be more emotional than men...some more than others), and it probably doesn't help that men/society put a lot of pressures on girls to be thin enough, smart enough, pretty enough.Pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12365631315923740004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-47080564699928170292008-03-17T08:33:00.000-06:002008-03-17T08:33:00.000-06:00I have 2 girls and a boy- they're all special to m...I have 2 girls and a boy- they're all special to me. I will say, my son was easier to raise. However, my daughters haven't yet come home with broken bones. By default, I've spent more time in ER waiting rooms with him. Especially the time Some Dude pushed him off a skateboard.Rudeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17889298704039071473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-58630808536523807962008-03-17T07:51:00.000-06:002008-03-17T07:51:00.000-06:00My daughter is my first born. She is 17 now, and ...My daughter is my first born. She is 17 now, and looking back, about the only time I would have traded her for a boy would be the year she was 13. Ugh. But even then she had her positive moments. Yes, she's been tough in some ways. Yes, she is more work than the boys in a lot of ways. But I know her intimately. She is a joy.<BR/><BR/>I love my boys. They are wonderful. There are moments where the emotional connection is just as strong as with my daughter. But those moments are fewer and I work harder for them. Perhaps they feel a bit more special because of the work.<BR/><BR/>I wouldn't trade her for a boy or the boys for girls. There is something unique and special about having children of each gender.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05655321325607087357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-43801064397323297992008-03-17T05:51:00.000-06:002008-03-17T05:51:00.000-06:00my sister had three sons. she said she never real...my sister had three sons. she said she never really wanted a daughter because sons are so much easier. just get 'em a supply of jeans and t-shirts and they're good for the whole school year.<BR/><BR/>my brother, on the other hand, had three daughters. funny how that works.<BR/><BR/>i'm pretty sure i left this exact same comment on the previous version of this post.lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18055442432266567561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-2321065031444921922008-03-17T05:11:00.000-06:002008-03-17T05:11:00.000-06:00Great post, lots of great insight, glad to hear yo...Great post, lots of great insight, glad to hear you are feeling a little better. From your post, I don't think we need to worry about you too much.softintheheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01365562754859033869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-45418042675656506482008-03-17T03:09:00.000-06:002008-03-17T03:09:00.000-06:00Last year I would have agreed with you RC but a fr...Last year I would have agreed with you RC but a friend of mine's son committed suicide recently - over his ex-girlfriend. Well, she was the trigger point. so I guess ot works both ways. But please dont worry about that happening to your boys - I'm sure it won't.Flowerpothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14102679179201725732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-53853136237208841322008-03-17T02:43:00.000-06:002008-03-17T02:43:00.000-06:00Girl drama? I don't get it either. And I am one....Girl drama? I don't get it either. And I am one. And I have one. A girl. Complete with the drama. My son has nightmarish dramatic tendencies too but somehow they're more straightforward.bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09356982330855702882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-92124778082570006962008-03-17T02:23:00.000-06:002008-03-17T02:23:00.000-06:00Thanks for posting this again, RC. This combines a...Thanks for posting this again, RC. This combines all the great things about your writing - warmth, humanity, wit and insight. As one of three girls, it has some resonance for me - we were all such drama queens when we were younger.<BR/><BR/>And you know, timing is everything!!<BR/><BR/>Mya xMyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14106690738320651376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-66951125117918115782008-03-17T01:26:00.000-06:002008-03-17T01:26:00.000-06:00I don't know what to say. Boys and girls can hurt ...I don't know what to say. Boys and girls can hurt equally bad over a love gone wrong. They can express if differently in equally destructive ways. I don't know if feeling like a total looser and a total waste of a human being is gender bound, just the way you act it out may be.Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043376053971475659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-89792536067556392192008-03-17T00:32:00.000-06:002008-03-17T00:32:00.000-06:00Wow!! I'm so glad "you're back." This was an AMAZI...Wow!! I'm so glad "you're back." This was an AMAZING post! No wonder I've been having nightmares about little Csilla's safety lately. The fantasies I've been having about locking her up and throwing away the key don't seem so crazy right about now.<BR/><BR/>But, I know your intention was not to scare the crap out of us moms with girls. I take it more as a word to the wise. The dangers that face our daughters are as much internal as external. Our job is to build in enough self-worth and inner peace, that they would never consider harming themselves for a man or anyone else (or thing) in their lives.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for an important lesson! More more more more more.Carolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04340061182737906221noreply@blogger.com