tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post3746780364725255935..comments2023-10-22T05:08:51.281-06:00Comments on Confessions of a Rotten Correspondent: please, mister, pleasethe rotten correspondenthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02704525054720181936noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-58607578413329578322008-10-12T06:49:00.000-06:002008-10-12T06:49:00.000-06:00I was looking forward anxiously to mine and then t...I was looking forward anxiously to mine and then the day the decree came in the mail, I was really sad. It was so final and really the end of a large important episode in my life. Don't underestimate what it can do to you, in a wily way. I'm okay now, but those first few days...Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043376053971475659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-88617437114670590282008-10-11T04:06:00.000-06:002008-10-11T04:06:00.000-06:00Still not signed>You need it so much to move on...Still not signed><BR/><BR/>You need it so much to move on. It's a signature. Sign it Mr. Judge, please. <BR/><BR/>(Is that you in the picture? Whoever it is, she is beautiful.)Cathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01247084030899971480noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-78378518261201335452008-10-09T16:05:00.000-06:002008-10-09T16:05:00.000-06:00Oh great, my DH has had insomnia lately! I'm thin...Oh great, my DH has had insomnia lately! <BR/><BR/>I'm thinking of you and hope you remember that the choices people make have a lot more to do with them than those around them. <BR/><BR/>My dad has had multiple marriages, some of the women I just loved! He is just unable to connect well with what he has and it is sad for him. It in no way diminishes the women he left... other than pissing them off initially!Devonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05563150483422859462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-30695214420800537122008-10-09T14:52:00.000-06:002008-10-09T14:52:00.000-06:00My husband (who has TWO ex-wives) said that divorc...My husband (who has TWO ex-wives) said that divorce was more difficult than going thru a death - b/c there is NO finality...you have to see that person, like you said...for shared things with the kids. <BR/><BR/>Hang in there, Girl...you are tough. If you're a nurse? You DEFINE tough.<BR/><BR/>It is amazing that you are sharing all this with us. Hope it is cathartic.Tiggerlanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12084094580971149293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-23080074235486108562008-10-09T14:49:00.000-06:002008-10-09T14:49:00.000-06:00Waiting is bad. I can't say don't be anxious when ...Waiting is bad. I can't say don't be anxious when you already are. <BR/>Expect to have the worst reaction and then you may be pleasantly surprised when it happens.<BR/>keeping everything crossed that you just feel relief when that envelope arrives.lebanesahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07988892248196307424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-15782953914429782252008-10-09T12:30:00.000-06:002008-10-09T12:30:00.000-06:00I've never been through this so there's no point i...I've never been through this so there's no point in me saying I know what you're going through.<BR/><BR/>I just hope it's a relief when it happens and there's no skeletons jumping out of cupboards. xAkelamaluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234268568845148285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-4427970490359888652008-10-09T10:09:00.000-06:002008-10-09T10:09:00.000-06:00Hang in there girl. You can do it. And don't let h...Hang in there girl. You can do it. And don't let him know that under your very strong front lies something completely different.<BR/><BR/>You're going to be okay. Really.aimshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12685252628734838159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-18323973068787696372008-10-09T07:06:00.000-06:002008-10-09T07:06:00.000-06:00You've given each other 20 years of your life, so ...You've given each other 20 years of your life, so I suppose there's bound to be some regrets, and change is blumming scary at the best of times. You're doing great but I hope it comes soon so you can move on and get past the worries about whether he'll change again. Take care.Jo Beaufoixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00957369658590225971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-88708993979273837062008-10-09T06:16:00.000-06:002008-10-09T06:16:00.000-06:00Having been there, I feel for you. Everyone does ...Having been there, I feel for you. Everyone does go through different stages. The one time we were in court together trying to finalize an agreement, I ended up crying uncontrollably. But the day the judge read the final decree, I felt totally surrounded by peace and love (he wasn't there). And then it still took another month or two to get the copy of the final decree. Divorce sucks no matter if you were blindsided or if you were the one who wanted out. I have lived with a lot of guilt because I was the one who left, but trust me, it wasn't done lightly or pain free. We went through 3 marriage counselors over a period of 8 years to get there and after the last two both asked me what was keeping me in the marriage, asking me why I would stay, I realized I finally had permission to leave. And then everyone in both families painted me as the "bad guy" because I couldn't suck it up any longer. <BR/>I wish you peace, for it will come, and a new, lovely life.Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00691293013547048119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-35555421910842369732008-10-09T00:04:00.000-06:002008-10-09T00:04:00.000-06:00Hope you don't have to wait too long and that it's...Hope you don't have to wait too long and that it's not an overwhelming experience when it finally happens.-Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08359625931588140579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-16454403157192908412008-10-08T23:47:00.000-06:002008-10-08T23:47:00.000-06:00Everyone likes to feel they have closure and I thi...Everyone likes to feel they have closure and I think that is is most unfair to keep you waiting.<BR/>hope it isn't for too long.Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-47304545273425190192008-10-08T23:35:00.000-06:002008-10-08T23:35:00.000-06:00Waiting is the worst. Maybe tomorrow.Waiting is the worst. Maybe tomorrow.ped crossinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06360740233306533239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-88155762856526091432008-10-08T23:32:00.000-06:002008-10-08T23:32:00.000-06:00I need a drink. And a hankie. I'm sorry. I hope...I need a drink. And a hankie. I'm sorry. I hope for you that like me, you find that it hurts less than expected.Rudeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17889298704039071473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-35353734343326542172008-10-08T22:00:00.000-06:002008-10-08T22:00:00.000-06:00Well shit, what can I say?Well shit, what can I say?willowtreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09173637121496772685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-17836448059802788412008-10-08T21:03:00.000-06:002008-10-08T21:03:00.000-06:00It took 2 1/2 years for me to get the divorce afte...It took 2 1/2 years for me to get the divorce after I filed. My ex began behaving like an ass about the divorce the second I said, "no, I think I need a lawyer". I wore a red suit to the court house the day the decree was signed. Unlike Laurie, it never bothered me that day. Or since. I'd been divorced for a long time in my head and in my heart.<BR/><BR/>I bet the only thing you'll feel when that paper comes is relief that it's finally over. Hurry up, Your Honor. RC's tired of waiting.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05655321325607087357noreply@blogger.com