tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post6185675668603994455..comments2023-10-22T05:08:51.281-06:00Comments on Confessions of a Rotten Correspondent: middle groundthe rotten correspondenthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02704525054720181936noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-15141407024640742992008-07-13T11:06:00.000-06:002008-07-13T11:06:00.000-06:00Hmm, looks like no mob is needed. I'm proud of you...Hmm, looks like no mob is needed. <BR/><BR/>I'm proud of you. For listening when he was ready to talk. Some people would have written him off with only the assumptions to back up their position. That would have left you bitter and mean when you had to deal with him.<BR/><BR/>I am so glad for you, and your kids, that you were able to talk it out. <BR/><BR/>Peace. A wonderful thing.Nearlydawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17132169507140828802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-52403915411196709512008-07-10T22:20:00.000-06:002008-07-10T22:20:00.000-06:00You should write a book seriously. I find myself g...You should write a book seriously. I find myself glued to your posts!Hey It's Dihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00946511234414730828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-26199447194385196812008-07-10T22:11:00.000-06:002008-07-10T22:11:00.000-06:00Um, I feel like an ass for my comment yesterday......Um, I feel like an ass for my comment yesterday...sorry.<BR/><BR/>This was a beautiful post. It is very scary that this happens, and it happens quite a bit. <BR/><BR/>Hold onto the feelings girl. I really think you are a truly amazing person. A beautiful soul. Hugs to you!Kaytabughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11823989062127968170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-61839080908320843402008-07-10T15:36:00.000-06:002008-07-10T15:36:00.000-06:00That conversation was the thing that will hopefull...That conversation was the thing that will hopefully enable you to have a fresh start.<BR/><BR/>It's a conversations lots of people should have but are too scared to, too comfortable or just in denial.<BR/><BR/>Better out than in!Swearing Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07277450057243928790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-72788663392819117952008-07-10T11:35:00.000-06:002008-07-10T11:35:00.000-06:00At least when you know what it is you can deal wit...At least when you know what it is you can deal with it.Akelamaluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234268568845148285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-65107515712051963242008-07-10T10:54:00.000-06:002008-07-10T10:54:00.000-06:00I am glad that when the silence broke that you did...I am glad that when the silence broke that you didn't. You have always had that tremendous ability to be calm even though you are in the eye of the storm. I hope that you can keep that peaceful feeling with you. <BR/><BR/>U R LOVEDHappy in the Abysshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18430029245934599353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-34302831552150433572008-07-10T10:49:00.000-06:002008-07-10T10:49:00.000-06:00peopl change...sad part about it!! 20 or so years ...peopl change...sad part about it!! 20 or so years ago you were both different people!! Iam glad you feel better and i hope you always have ~WT~ in your corner and if I ever end up in this spot iam calling WT!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-6406263750480781392008-07-10T09:10:00.000-06:002008-07-10T09:10:00.000-06:00Imagine marrying the wrong person and not knowing ...Imagine marrying the wrong person and not knowing it for 21 years.<BR/><BR/>I can't. <BR/><BR/>For myself? I would probably 'grow to love' that person over all those years instead of doing the opposite. <BR/><BR/>Strange what a mid-life crisis will do to your brain.aimshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12685252628734838159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-72383933725575419162008-07-10T07:23:00.000-06:002008-07-10T07:23:00.000-06:00sometimes the simplest answer is the right one: he...sometimes the simplest answer is the right one: he wasn't happy. tried to hide it. couldnt. time to move on.<BR/><BR/>i've done that, but not after 21 years. it usually only takes me a few months.<BR/><BR/>sorry it took him so long, but you have three wonderful sons out of it....and the house of your dreams. that, and peace & closure, ain't bad.<BR/><BR/>(though if doug ever tries to fuck me over, i'm dragging him to WT, Marriage Counselor.)lauriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18055442432266567561noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-73846173431594135222008-07-10T06:49:00.000-06:002008-07-10T06:49:00.000-06:00I have to agree with the Hollywood comment. How ma...I have to agree with the Hollywood comment. How many of us would 'realize' we were dissatisfied with our lives if Hollywood wasn't telling us we should be skinnier, have more things, have sex with more people more often. Most of the drugs they are pushing are toxic and it's tough when someone you love buys into that crap.LCMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09302609358772748900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-29637936912097553042008-07-10T06:36:00.000-06:002008-07-10T06:36:00.000-06:00It isn't easy to be honest or to hear someone tell...It isn't easy to be honest or to hear someone tell us the entire relationship was built on nothing. The truth is, nobody has a fairy tale marriage. Some, if lucky, find a friend they can grow old with and enjoy life's offerings. Perhaps he'll find what he thinks he needs, more likely, its been under his nose the whole time.<BR/><BR/>I don't know what it means to be in a midlife crisis. What is that? Is it a sudden realization that your life isn't what Hollywood says it should be? A crisis is an emergency, growing old is not an emergent event requiring immediate treatment.Rudeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17889298704039071473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-20062029489195842852008-07-10T06:20:00.000-06:002008-07-10T06:20:00.000-06:00I'm so glad you got to have that conversation. I'...I'm so glad you got to have that conversation. I've been divorced for 6 years and haven't had it yet, which means I probably never will. But I know I worked hard to find peace with it all because if you don't, everyone loses, you most of all. I've had friends who divorced 10 years ago who were unable to move on and it's a shame. Be proud of your behavior.Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00691293013547048119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-1534139566739797172008-07-10T04:54:00.000-06:002008-07-10T04:54:00.000-06:00Well so much for the "obvious" theory. Glad you h...Well so much for the "obvious" theory. Glad you had this conversation and it is helping you. Stay strong. Aren't you glad WT is in your corner?! :)softintheheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01365562754859033869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-48903090831076809852008-07-10T04:05:00.001-06:002008-07-10T04:05:00.001-06:00Life is complicated - middle-age sucks - Hope his ...Life is complicated - middle-age sucks - Hope his honesty has helped you and that you can get real closure on this for the kids' sakes. Nothing worse than long-term bitterness and wrangling for their well-being. Glad you were able to speak so openly to each other.lebanesahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07988892248196307424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-55614552566718250382008-07-10T04:05:00.000-06:002008-07-10T04:05:00.000-06:00Blokes might be notoriously reticent when it comes...Blokes might be notoriously reticent when it comes to talking (especially about feelings) but we're not all serial shaggers and adulters. I hope, for your sake, yours wasn't. As you say, you could be wrong, but what you've got sounds like a reasonable (and tragic) explanation. Why do we do these things to ourselves?Tim Atkinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00858684167484655029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-41382139335968248862008-07-10T01:12:00.000-06:002008-07-10T01:12:00.000-06:00Sounds like a really helpful conversation whether ...Sounds like a really helpful conversation whether it's entirely truthful or not. I'm glad he finally talked. I'm sorry for the crap you've had to endure. I hope it marks a new chapter.bellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09356982330855702882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-19328343376284807592008-07-09T23:33:00.000-06:002008-07-09T23:33:00.000-06:00RC...... It still isn't easy to accept that theory...RC...... It still isn't easy to accept that theory, but at least you are not kept wondering. That in itself must bring peace. I am glad that it is more amiable now.<BR/>Things never have that fairy tale ending though and some times a compromise is better.Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-69114429404200743032008-07-09T23:31:00.000-06:002008-07-09T23:31:00.000-06:00Ditto, WT.That story has red flags all over it. Of...Ditto, WT.<BR/><BR/>That story has red flags all over it. <BR/><BR/>Of course, something was clearly making you squirm, too, or you wouldn't have moved so far from the beach and Abba Zabbas.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03656235714427761274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-75120436757667510082008-07-09T23:29:00.000-06:002008-07-09T23:29:00.000-06:00wow. i'm glad you can see things for what they are...wow. i'm glad you can see things for what they are now.<BR/><BR/>that should help you. and i hope it sticks.the planet of janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11444337511603560544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-79245073993417288042008-07-09T23:27:00.000-06:002008-07-09T23:27:00.000-06:00I'm happy for your closure and peace. I hope those...I'm happy for your closure and peace. I hope those feelings last for you.<BR/><BR/>(And once again, LOL at WT. I think I should always wait to comment after WT...)Carolynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04340061182737906221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-74020938262438077682008-07-09T23:10:00.000-06:002008-07-09T23:10:00.000-06:00You're taking it better than I would, he's still a...You're taking it better than I would, he's still an asshole. So he didn't get the fairytale life he wanted, oh boo fucking hoo! Grow some ball and deal with it.<BR/><BR/>You know, I think I could be a marriage counsellor.willowtreehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09173637121496772685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7407016858777887859.post-56115992940512569712008-07-09T22:55:00.000-06:002008-07-09T22:55:00.000-06:00RC,I am so glad that you had an honest conversatio...RC,<BR/>I am so glad that you had an honest conversation. The truth can be painful to hear, but the not knowing and making assumptions are worse. The truth does give you the closure you need to move on. It is a process, as you know, much like grieving, but it is movement in the right direction. Being stuck is so much worse.<BR/><BR/>Again, I am sorry that you have to go through this. Wish I had some great words of wisdom to make it easier, except lean on your friends and family right now. This includes your blogger friends. I'm here if you need anything. I mean it.<BR/>XOXOAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com