Thursday, May 29, 2008

so...


For just a few months short of twenty three years the FG and I have shared an address. We've lived in six houses in two cities in two states. We started out as a living together college couple in Southern California and ended up middle-aged married parents in the Midwest.


Ended up.


As we count down the final days of sharing an address, the true measure of the real people involved is coming out. So considerate. So controlled. So much in love with their children. So stubborn. So conscientious. So ready.


So sad.


So very, very sad.

22 comments:

WT said...

I agree, this is really very sad.

Eileen said...

It is very sad. I wish it could be different, but I know you do too.
Sending you strength and support through blogland. Hang in there and put you and your boys first, like always.
XOXOXO

-Ann said...

Really, really sad. I'm so sorry that you and your family have to go through this.

ped crossing said...

It says so much about you that you can still say positive things. Take care.

Rudee said...

It's so difficult and so very sad. I'm sorry for you and your family. I hope you'll remember to take care of yourself. I wish you peace.

Aoj & The Lurchers said...

This must be a really difficult time RC. My thoughts are with you all.

the mother of this lot said...

I'm sad for you, RC.

Rose said...

Yes it is sad. But trust me, it will get better.

Rose said...

It's the death of a particular life you thought you would have. Grieve for that life, but realize you will have another one that will be just as good or better than the one you had planned. Trust me on this.

Kaycie said...

It is quite sad, RC. Once it's over, you'll feel relief, though. There is something so unsettling in that period between deciding to divorce and actually becoming two single people again. I think it has to do with identity and change.

Hang in there.

Marti said...

You and the boys are in my thoughts and prayers, RC!

Hugs,
Marti

aims said...

I have been keeping my eye on the date - remembering that June 1 is the day he moves out.

I'm sorry RC.

Ms Wiz said...

I have read your blog for a while, thoroughly enjoyed it but not so far commented. Your post today struck a chord. It is sad yet it must be the right thing for you both or it wouldn't be happening. I admire your courage in calling an end to something that must no longer be right - for whatever reasons. Sometimes hanging on is more wrong than ending it - I wish I had your courage.

Autumn said...

Coming out of quiet lurkdom to say I'm sorry your having to go through it. Sending good thoughts your way.

the planet of janet said...

i'm so sorry, hon. i know this sucks.

Akelamalu said...

A sad time, but if it's what you both really want then it's for the best. x

Frances said...

so sorry it is sad.

Sandy said...

It is sad and we are all sad right along with you. Sympathy available right here - or a kick in the arse - whichever will help the most.

Happy in the Abyss said...

I am sad. I am sad for everyone, even being selfish..I am sad for myelf. I feel like a part of me has died and it hurts my heart desperately to know that what you are feeling is a billion plus one times more horrendous. My heart will always be with the 5 of you. The amazing men you made together, the lives you built for them and the great virtues you have instilled. They are resilient, as are you, and will overcome the sorrow to experience mass joy, AS WILL YOU. Even after the papers are signed and i's are dotted, you will remain what you are today...what you have been since that lovely April day in 1986...my sister...my friend.

My love to you now and always....

CrazyCath said...

I feel your grief.

Know that you may lose a husband but will never lose a friend.
You are both handling this with quiet dignity. Your children will forever be grateful. You have terrific strength.
Respect to you both.

Jettied said...

Yes Sad in some ways ..but there must be a positive side???? or I hope..if their is for ya lets hear it???? You seem so strong and vibrante.

Carolyn said...

Sorry sorry RC. This sucks.