Sunday, March 1, 2009

I am out of my godforsaken mind...


Okay. Majority rules.


I knew for a fact - since he told me- that hot tax fix it guy was going to be out of town this weekend. Skiing. In Colorado. Sounds good, no?


But as of Monday, he'll be back


So here's my question. Do I call him? Find some fix-it job to do? Or do I chalk it up to hormones gone mad on my part? Should I treat this whole thing as the joke I'm dying to...


Or not? I've not responded physically like this in 20 years... I'm just sayin'...


Majority rules. You guys call it.


Game on.

26 comments:

distracted by shiny objects said...

Call the man. Consider it research for a book you're writing and no matter what happens it's a win/win...and have fun:>)

Stacie said...

My vote is to call him! Can I vote multiple times? :-)

Rudee said...

I say call him, but ask him out instead of asking him to fix something. This way, it's clear what your intentions may be. What's the worst that can happen? He'll say no? I'm sure you've live through worse than that.

Maggie May said...

Call him! Just to save face ask him to do a small job and then pounce & ask him to accompany you ...... wherever?!

Follow that urge....

Aoj and The Lurchers said...

That's a toughie.....If it were me and I rang him to ask him out and he said no, I'd probably be mortified. If you can handle a refusal with aplomb, go for it. If not, ring him and ask him to fix something but work it so he comes round at dinner/lunch time and invite him to stay for food. Two birds. One stone.

Anna Lea said...

Call him call him!!! You so deserve it!!!

The Finely Tuned Woman said...

Call him and ask him out for lunch. That's less pressure than dinner. Make up your mind ahead of time where you want to go, unless he has a favorite place. Ask him casually, be cool about it. If you're too eager, it may scare him off. I am all for women asking men out if the woman is interested. I've had some fine dates that way that ended up in relationships. Never mind the success rate. That's a whole other story.

softinthehead said...

Yes I say call him for a date, life is too short to live with "what if's". Go for it!! :)

CC said...

call him.

laurie said...

looks like i don't even have to vote!

Cath said...

Call him. Ask for something to be fixed.
What's the worse he can say? That you're mad? So you don't see him again. No prob!

Call him.

Rose said...

Call him and ask him if he'd like to meet for coffee, a drink, or something; that way he'll know you're interested. Nothing ventured, nothing gained! What do you have to lose? (Just read Rudee; exactly my advice!)

Kaycie said...

Call him. Oh yes, call him.

LCM said...

Break something, break it now! And then call him. That way you can check him out on your home turf and see if you still feel the same way.

Devon said...

As a fellow list making fool, I would create a list of pros and cons, including the kids and their needs.

I know, I'm no fun, but you know what you and your family are ready for much more so than us here in cyber land!

Frances said...

I was going to say 'call him' but then I thought - I wouldn't call him, if it was me in this position.
I just wouldn't.
If he likes you, he knows where you are.
If he calls you, you know where you are. If you call him, then that is a whole other thing.

If he is on a social network saying he's looking, then he is. Who can tell how many women have his calling card? Let him call you. Really.

I think you are VERY vulnerable right now and shouldn't take the risk of him not being such a nice guy as he seems - who knows what 'looking' means or how far and how often he looks.
A close friend of mine recently got really badly burnt by someone - it has set her right back and I think you shouldn't take that risk.
Wait and see.
If he likes you - he will call, he isn't a kid.

Kate said...

Definitely call him! You don't have to ask him out, but you can subtly let him know you're interested.

Rudee said...

OK, I'm not padding the votes here, but think about this:

Why do we put the burden of the asking on men? Don't you think they may have the same feelings we do when it comes to approaching someone for a date? As a mother of sons, you've got to appreciate that point just a little bit. So what if he says no? I say nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Hormones aren't such a bad thing RC. Embrace them and use them while you still have them!

Iota said...

I'm not sure I like having that much influence in someone else's life. I mean, when you go to the voting booth, you know your vote is one among thousands, or millions. Here, I feel a little too much of the burden of responsibility.

Find a fix-it job. Or have one more query about your tax.

But I've just read Frances, and she has sobered my advice a little. You are pretty vulnerable, and so you need to take things slowly. You know very little about him.

And don't forget, this is real life. Blogging about it maybe makes it feel a little more of a fantasy and a little less like it's really happening and will have implications. I hope asking our advice doesn't make that worse.

The Finely Tuned Woman said...

Yes, indeed, Frances' advice had a sobering effect on me also. I'm thinking, we're not in high school anymore and we're not a bunch of giggling teenagers. This is real life and we've got to take this seriously. It's not just a blog drama after all.

My advice is now, that I have no advice. I seriously don't know what you should do next. So, when I am in doubt, I do nothing, so I withhold all my advice, no matter how many tips I want to give you.

You are a grown woman with three children that you have to add to the equation and a healing heart. There is a potential that it will be broken again and I don't want to have that on my conscience.

So, whatever I said in the heat of the moment before, I take back, and ask you to consider things carefully and rationally. What advice would you give a friend in the same situation?

Take several steps back and look at the whole picture and disregard your raging hormones. How big of a chance are you willing to take?

laurie said...

ok, chickadee, you haven't given us enough information.

other than finding him hot, what else can you tell us?

did you get vibes from him? did you feel like he was interested in you? did he seem sincerely nice? (a lot of hot guys are not nice in the least, you know. just ask willowtree.)

(joke.)

ok, no longer joking: i don't see you as particularly vulnerable. you're very tough and extremely clear-eyed about life and very sensible. but i also know you don't want to get hurt or fall flat on your face.

so what else can you tell us about him, so we can advise you better?

Katy said...

I would say call him, but I have a crush on a guy right now and I haven't called him because the worst is that he will say no. And then, not only do you get that little ping of rejection (which really wouldn't be that bad), but the fun is also gone.

So I say if you do call him, find something that needs fixing. Nothing wrong with that.

Akelamalu said...

Cos I've been away I had to go back through your posts to find out who this guy is. RING HIM!

Aoj and The Lurchers said...

OK, Frances's advice is sound and, with a sensible head on, I cannot disagree with it.

But for heaven's sake, this is a possible date we're talking about here, not you committing the rest of your life to the man.

You're only here once and, yes, you need to be careful, but sometimes caution needs to be thrown to the wind and you actually have to LIVE your life, not just exist.

Anonymous said...

call

Miriam said...

Call him! You've got nothing to lose, except the "what if"..go for it! And it'll be ok, mimi